Saturday, November 28, 2020

 


Sheepish Leadership

 

 

Posted on December 4, 2019 (5780) By Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky | Series: Drasha | Level: Beginner

 

Sheep. You wouldn’t think they’d play a major role in determining our leaders, but they     did. The Midrash says that one of Moshe’s defining acts that moved  G-d to choose him as  the leader of Israel was his attitude toward his animal flock. Once an ewe wandered from the pack, and Moshe scoured the desert to find it. He finally found the parched and exhausted creature, and he fed and carried her back to the rest of the flock. G-d was impressed. On     the way home, Moshe saw a very fascinating sight. A burning bush. The rest is history.

King David was also a shepherd. The Midrash tells us that David’s handling of sheep was  also the impetus for G-d to choose him to lead His flock. David had a very calculated   grazing system. First he would allow only the young sheep to pasture. They would eat the most tender grass. After they finished, David allowed the older sheep to graze. In this manner the tougher meadow grass was left for those sheep with stronger jaws. The    Midrash tells us that G-d was impressed with David’s abilities to discern the different     needs of varying age groups and foresaw in those actions the leadership qualities needed to be King of Israel.

So much for the careers of two of our greatest Jewish leaders as shepherds. What troubles me is this week’s Torah portion which contains a long episode that also deals with sheep. It expounds in detail exactly how Yaakov manipulated genetics and had the acumen to cultivate an amazingly large and diverse flock. However, I am troubled. Why is a long narrative of seemingly inconsequential breeding techniques detailed so intricately? The

Torah spends nearly twenty verses on a half-dozen varieties of sheep colors and explains how Yaakov bred them. Why are such seemingly insignificant breeding details given so much play in the Torah? Let us analyze the story:

Yaakov worked fifteen years for his father-in-law, Lavan. No matter how arduously he toiled, Lavan constantly tried to deny Yaakov compensation. Finally, he forced Yaakov to accept a share in the sheep as wages, but only with certain stipulations. He would only compensate him with sheep that were a mutation from the normal flock. First, he set Yaakov’s wages to be paid with only speckled lambs that born of Yaakov’s flock. Yaakov, in  a procedure that would have astounded even Gregor Mendel, produced sheep exactly according to those specifications. Next, Lavan allowed him striped sheep. Again, miraculously Yaakov cultivated his flock to produce a bounty of striped sheep! The Torah repeats the episode in various colors and stripes. What could be the significance of its importance?

Rabbi Aryeh Levin was once standing outside his yeshiva in Jerusalem while the children were on a 15 minute recess break. His son, Chaim, a teacher in  the yeshiva, was standing and observing, when suddenly his father turned to him. “What do you see my son?” asked Rav Aryeh. “Why,” he answered, “children playing!”

“Tell me about them,” said Reb Aryeh. “Well,” answered Reb Chaim, “Dovid is standing near the door of the school, with his hands in his pockets, he probably is no athlete.

Moishie is playing wildly, he probably is undisciplined. Yankel is analyzing how the clouds are drifting. I guess he was not counted in the game. But all in all they are just a bunch of children playing.” Reb Aryeh turned to him and exclaimed, “No, my son. You don’t know how to watch the children.

“Dovid is near the door with his hands in his pockets because he has no sweater. His  parents can’t afford winter clothes for him. Moishie is wild because his Rebbe scolded him and he is frustrated. And Yankel is moping because his mother is ill and he bears the responsibility to help with the entire household.

“In order to be a Rebbe you must know each boy’s needs and make sure to give him the proper attention to fulfill those needs.”

Yaakov had a very difficult task. His mission was to breed twelve tribes — each to be directed in a unique path. Some sons were to be merchants, others scholars. Judah was destined for royalty, while Levi was suited to be a teacher of the common folk. Each son, like each Jew, had a special mission. Hashem needed a father for the twelve tribes who would not breed all his children in the same mold. If Moshe’s and David’s destinies were determined by their care and compassion for their animal flock, perhaps Yaakov’s


development of twelve tribes was pre-determined by his development of a wide array of his flock. Only someone who knew how to cultivate unity in diversity would know how to produce the forebearers of the Jewish nation.

 


The Returning Strength of Jacob

 

 

Posted on November 14, 2018 (5779) By Rabbi Berel Wein | Series: Rabbi Wein | Level: Beginner

 

Our father Jacob was a very strong and physically powerful person. We read of his physical prowess in his previous encounter with the shepherds of Haran and later of his wrestling match with the angel of Esav, at the river of Yaabok. His sons, though young in years, are also very powerful and strong physically and filled with self-confidence, without fear of confronting dangerous enemies. We will see that his two sons, Shimon and Levi, destroy   the city of Shechem in their rage and sense of justified revenge for the behavior against   their sister Dena. And according to Jewish legend, as quoted by Ramban in his   commentary, Jacob engaged in many battles against hostile tribes after entering the Land   of Israel.

And yet the overall picture of our father Jacob that emerges from the narrative recorded in the Torah is one of appeasement and an avoidance of confrontation at almost all costs. He allows both Lavan and Esav to threaten him and, in effect, he chooses to buy them off with words and gifts. There is little evidence of the true strength and power of Jacob in the   Torah narrative itself. It is obvious that that there is a dual nature present in the portrait

that the Torah describes regarding our father Jacob. And there is a profound lesson present in that purposeful presentation that the Torah has made for us to learn and follow.

We are all aware that the narrative regarding the lives and experiences of our patriarchs and matriarchs is meant to be instructive, as are all the events in Jewish history. During first and second Temple times, when the Jewish people had national sovereignty, they engaged in many wars and battles and were well known throughout the area as a fierce

foe. As a matter of fact, Josephus records that the wars of the Jews were the most fearsome in the history of the Roman Legions.

However, after the destruction of the second Temple and the rise of Christianity and later Islam, the Jews became a persecuted minority and almost powerless in terms of physical strength. The entire history of the exile is how the Jewish people lived by their wits, with low profiles and with appeasement of their enemies. Since the exile has lasted for such a long time, this attitude and self-assessment became ingrained in the Jewish psyche. It is only when the rock bottom of the Jewish exile was reached through the Holocaust that the situation of Jewish self assessment and self assertion began to change.

The creation of the State of Israel is undoubtedly the catalyst for this change. The success of the Jewish State, far beyond even the wildest hopes of previous generations, has emboldened Jewish life throughout the world. It has enabled Jews to become publicly Jewish and observant even while holding high office in non-Jewish societies and  countries. It is the time of the children of Jacob reasserting themselves in pride and strength. May it continue to embed itself in the brains and hearts of Jews.


Shabbat Shalom Rabbi Berel Wein

 

 

 

 


The Returning Strength of Jacob

 

 

Posted on November 14, 2018 (5779) By Rabbi Berel Wein | Series: Rabbi Wein | Level: Beginner

 

Our father Jacob was a very strong and physically powerful person. We read of his physical prowess in his previous encounter with the shepherds of Haran and later of his wrestling match with the angel of Esav, at the river of Yaabok. His sons, though young in years, are also very powerful and strong physically and filled with self-confidence, without fear of confronting dangerous enemies. We will see that his two sons, Shimon and Levi, destroy   the city of Shechem in their rage and sense of justified revenge for the behavior against   their sister Dena. And according to Jewish legend, as quoted by Ramban in his   commentary, Jacob engaged in many battles against hostile tribes after entering the Land   of Israel.

And yet the overall picture of our father Jacob that emerges from the narrative recorded in the Torah is one of appeasement and an avoidance of confrontation at almost all costs. He allows both Lavan and Esav to threaten him and, in effect, he chooses to buy them off with words and gifts. There is little evidence of the true strength and power of Jacob in the   Torah narrative itself. It is obvious that that there is a dual nature present in the portrait

that the Torah describes regarding our father Jacob. And there is a profound lesson present in that purposeful presentation that the Torah has made for us to learn and follow.

We are all aware that the narrative regarding the lives and experiences of our patriarchs and matriarchs is meant to be instructive, as are all the events in Jewish history. During first and second Temple times, when the Jewish people had national sovereignty, they engaged in many wars and battles and were well known throughout the area as a fierce

foe. As a matter of fact, Josephus records that the wars of the Jews were the most fearsome in the history of the Roman Legions.

However, after the destruction of the second Temple and the rise of Christianity and later Islam, the Jews became a persecuted minority and almost powerless in terms of physical strength. The entire history of the exile is how the Jewish people lived by their wits, with low profiles and with appeasement of their enemies. Since the exile has lasted for such a long time, this attitude and self-assessment became ingrained in the Jewish psyche. It is only when the rock bottom of the Jewish exile was reached through the Holocaust that the situation of Jewish self assessment and self assertion began to change.

The creation of the State of Israel is undoubtedly the catalyst for this change. The success of the Jewish State, far beyond even the wildest hopes of previous generations, has emboldened Jewish life throughout the world. It has enabled Jews to become publicly Jewish and observant even while holding high office in non-Jewish societies and  countries. It is the time of the children of Jacob reasserting themselves in pride and strength. May it continue to embed itself in the brains and hearts of Jews.


Shabbat Shalom Rabbi Berel Wein

 

 

 

 

Saturday, November 21, 2020

 


Raising Perfect Children?

 

Posted on November 19, 2014 (5775) By Rabbi Berel Wein | Series: Rabbi Wein | Level: Beginner

 

Perfect parents do not always produce perfect children. This week’s parsha is a perfect illustration of this truism of life and family. There apparently was very little that Yitzchak and Rivka could do to reclaim Eisav to their way of life and level of morality. He was, perhaps, incapable of moral improvement the moment he was born.

There existed, and perhaps still exists, a great debate about whether genetic makeup or social and family environment determine a child’s personality and behavior patterns. But no matter how we judge this question, it still is perplexing, if not even unthinkable, that Yitzchak and Rivka parented Eisav and raised him in their holy home.

It is one of the Torah’s prime examples of the power of freedom of choice that children and all human beings possess. Parents naturally berate themselves over the bad behavior of   their children. Yet, in my admittedly limited experience, these parents are hardly ever to be blamed for the free- will wickedness of their offspring.

We ascribe too much power to parents in raising children. Of course family and  environment are important, but a child’s choices will trump all other factors and circumstances. And thus we have an Eisav emerging from the house and family of Yitzchak and Rivka.

The Torah’s message to us in this matter is direct and blunt – there are no guarantees or perfect successes in raising children. One could say that  though Avraham fathered  Yishmael, perhaps it was Hagar’s influence that formed him. But what can we say about the house of Yitzchak and Rivka that could produce an Eisav?

The Torah poses for us the unanswerable questions of life that we encounter daily. And it never truly provides us with satisfying answers. Such is the nature of life itself – its mystery, uncertainty and unpredictably. The great question as to why the righteous suffer and the evil person apparently prospers lies at the root of the struggle for belief and faith. And as we read in the book of Iyov, the Lord chooses, so to speak, not to answer that question.

The Torah does not explain to us how an Eisav can arise from the house of Yitzchak and Rivka. Apparently it is satisfied just to notify us that it occurred and, by inference, to teach us that other inexplicable things will occur throughout Jewish and human history.


Eisav, whether genetically or environmentally influenced, was a free agent – as we all are – to choose between good and evil, peace and violence, compassion and cruelty. These   choices were his and his alone to make. Somehow, Heaven also must have taken into  account the heartbreak of Yitzchak and Rivka over the behavior of Eisav. But that is  certainly secondary to the judgment regarding Eisav himself.

There is a tendency in our modern world to try and understand and sympathize with the  evil one at the expense of the good and decent victims of that evil. The Torah is not a fan of such misplaced compassion. Rivka makes the painful decision to abandon Eisav and save Yaakov. By so doing she ensures the civilization of the human race.

Shabat shalom Rabbi Berel Wein

 


A Healthy Transmission

 

Posted on November 28, 2018 (5780) By Torah.org | Series: Lifeline | Level: Beginner

The Torah spends a great deal of time discussing the life of our forefather Avraham, and that of Yaakov. By comparison, Yitzchak receives relatively short shrift.  The  offering of Yitzchak as a Korban, a sacrifice, is primarily told as a test of his father. It is Eliezer, his father’s servant, who goes out to find Yitzchak a wife. And though I have not done a formal count, I strongly suspect that

the Torah provides a longer account of Eliezer’s visit to the family of Besuel, Rivkah’s  father, than the total of all verses directly discussing Yitzchak. Yitzchak meets and marries his wife at the end of last week’s reading, and this week begins by discussing “Toldos” Yitzchak, meaning his children Yaakov and Esav.

Much of what we hear about Yitzchak sounds very familiar. He is forced to hide his wife’s identity, fearing for his life. That is precisely what happened to his father. We learn that Yitzchak goes back and digs the same wells that his father previously dug, which the Pelishtim had filled with dirt.

Even in appearance, Yitzchak was like his father. Rashi tells us, in his commentary to the  first verse of our reading, that the mockers of Avraham’s time said that it must be that    Sarah became pregnant from Avimelech, because she had been with Avraham for many  years and only became pregnant after being briefly taken by Avimelech. To prove    otherwise, G-d made Yitzchak look so profoundly similar to his father that no modern DNA test was needed to prove paternity.

So with all of the above, what is Yitzchak’s unique identity?

 

Our Rabbis teach that our forefathers were each paragons of a particular character trait. For Avraham, that was Chesed, kindness. He was so devoted to reaching out, to showing generosity to others, that he ran to welcome idolaters into his tent (or, angels that he believed to be idolaters) while suffering the worst day of recovery from his circumcision. Yaakov’s defining characteristic was Emes, truth, and thus the biggest tests for him were needing to mislead his father, and then deal with Lavan’s deceit.

Yitzchak’s characteristic was Gevurah, strength. How did he show that strength?


One answer is found in the very similarity to his father’s story, that we find above.   Yitzchak’s mission was to hold firm to the teachings of his father, and prove that his father, though a uniquely great individual, would not be a “one off,” an “aberration,” a “blip on the radar.”

We learn that Yaakov, when he ran from Esav, went to study with Noach’s son Shem and grandson Ever. Shem and Ever were great men, they knew Torah through prophecy, yet they were unable to transmit righteousness to their descendants. Yitzchak was able to take what he learned from Avraham, and give it to Yaakov. Yitzchak is the linchpin tying grandfather to grandson, creating the “threefold chain” which, our Sages teach, “is not  easily broken.

In last week’s reading, when Rivkah comes to Yitzchak, he marries her, and loves her, and   “is consoled after his mother.” Rashi tells us that during Sarah’s lifetime, she would light    the Shabbos candles, and they would continue burning until the eve of the following Shabbos. She would bake loaves, and they would be blessed. The cloud of the Divine Presence rested by the tent. When Sarah passed away, all of these three things stopped. But when Rivkah came to the tent, the blessings returned.

Yitzchak saw comfort, because he wanted that continuity. He wanted to see his wife  able to bring the same blessings as his mother brought, because he wanted to follow in the path of his father. He did not want to strike out on his own, to do something different. On the contrary, his very strength of character was shown in how carefully he hewed to the model set by his holy parents.

All of us, as Jews, come from those holy ancestors. We, like Yitzchak, must strive to continue, to hold fast to the patterns set by our holy forebears, to maintain that which we have, and to successfully transmit it to the next generation. May we be successful in doing so until the end of days.


 

 

 

 

Saturday, November 14, 2020

 


Character, Bedrock of the Personality

 

 

Posted on November 20, 2019 (5780) By Rabbi Shlomo Jarcaig | Series: Kol HaKollel | Level: Beginner

 

Our Patriarch Avraham is acknowledged as one of the foremost servants of G-d in history. He spread the concept of monotheism throughout the world and dedicated his life to connecting mankind with the Creator of the Universe. As the divinely designated heir to  this legacy, his son Yitzchak (Isaac) and his descendants would receive the Torah and lead the world to its ultimate purpose. Thus, finding the ideal mate for Yitzchak was vital.

Avraham, perplexingly, intentionally overlooked the many hundreds of people in whom he had invested so much time and energy, those he and Sarah themselves had drawn close to G-d. Undoubtedly, many of them achieved high levels in their spiritual quest to appreciate G-d’s ultimate dominion over the world and its innumerable concurrent functions. The daughter of his faithful and learned servant Eliezer was an obvious candidate to be Yitzchak’s mate, but was rejected because of her Canaanite heritage. Instead, Avraham opted to find an unknown woman from his homeland of Ur Kasdim, choosing to find the ideal mate from an area populated by idol worshippers rather than selecting from the families of his finest students. Even more curious is the process in which Rivka, Yitzchak’s

 

ultimate bride, was chosen. As she drew water for her family, Eliezer, a stranger to Rivka acting as Avraham’s messenger, requested she provide his entourage with water. If she would provide them and their camels with their needed water, this would be a sign from G-  d that she was the one destined to marry Yitzchak. While this test was indicative of her     kind nature, it revealed nothing about her ideology. Why was there a concern with her character but no apparent concern if she was an idol worshipper, atheist, or a follower of   any of the false ideologies Avraham dedicated his life to eradicating?

Rabbi Eliyahu Lopian (1876-1976; disseminator of Torah and mussar (ethics) for over 70 years in Lithuania, England and Israel; some of his thoughts are collected in the two    volume Lev Eliyahu) explains that Avraham’s priorities for Yitzchak’s spouse offer a deeper insight into service of G-d. The import of fear and awe of G-d is primary, but good midos (character traits, moral fiber) are the essential foundation on which this reverence is built.   A person with the proper midos who lacks the fear of G-d needs only to be taught the fallacy of his outlook. When he appreciates his error and resolves to change he can quickly accomplish and grow in divine service. Conversely, a person with coarse midos, even with the comprehension that his weaknesses need to be addressed, can work an entire lifetime to change and still not succeed.

Avraham was living in the land of Canaan, surrounded by the descendants of Canaan who,  a few Torah portions ago, were cursed by their grandfather Noah. The bad midos Canaan and his father, Ham, exhibited disgraced Noah after the flood. Avraham’s knowledge of human nature dictated that children generally inculcate the attributes of their parents.

Despite the fact that his students were G-d fearing individuals – he himself had trained them – they were not fit to be a match for Yitzchak. He had no choice but to search for a match from the descendants of his grandfather, Ham’s brother, Shem. In contrast to Ham and Canaan, Noah blessed Shem because of his concern for their father’s honor. Avraham, as Shem’s progeny, had his grandfather’s strength of character, and he correctly surmised that another descendent of Shem would be the ideal mate for Yitzchak. Overlooking all of his followers and searching elsewhere to find Yitzchak’s match, Avraham taught us a most basic precept in the service of G-d: Derech eretz kadma leTorah, an existence dedicated to living and learning Torah can only be built on the bedrock of strong character.

Have a good Shabbos!


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Focus on the Future

 

 

Posted on October 31, 2018 (5779) By Rabbi Berel Wein | Series: Rabbi Wein | Level: Beginner

 

The loss of one’s beloved spouse, especially after many years and decades of marriage and shared life, is always a traumatic and shattering blow. Those of us, who unfortunately have also experienced this occurrence of Avraham’s life in our own lives can testify as to the emotional damage and even physical harm that this sad experience can occasion.

We see from the life of our father Jacob that even decades later he reminds his children and himself of the pain and suffering caused by the death of his beloved wife, Rachel. In    essence, it seems that Jacob never again was the same person after the death of Rachel.

However, Avraham apparently dealt with the death of Sarah in a more stoic fashion. The Torah itself indicates this by inference, when it wrote concerning Avraham’s reaction to the tragedy by using a small letter kaf in its description of the grief and weeping of Avraham  over the death of Sarah.

It is not that Avraham is less grieved at the loss of Sarah then Jacob was at the death of Rachel, It is rather that after all of the challenges and trials that Avraham had already endured, his attitude towards life and its vicissitudes was now always one of looking forward and never dwelling on the past.

Those who live exclusively in the past are doomed to self-pity and great emotional angst. This only causes a sense of victimhood and hopelessness. It reflects itself in every aspect of later life and stunts any further spiritual, social, personal or societal growth. The greatness of Avraham, as taught us by the Mishnah, was his resilience and continued spiritual and personal growth. Avraham constantly looked forward – ahead – and never dwelled on past misfortune.

I heard an outstanding speech delivered by George Deek, a Christian  Arab  who  is  a member of the Israeli Foreign Office. In telling the story of his life he describes how his family lived in Jaffa for many generations and how they fled to Lebanon during the 1948  War of Independence. Sensing the squalor and political manipulation of the refugees by the Arab powers, whose sole goal was the destruction of Israel and not in saving and resettling the refugees, his grandfather escaped Lebanon and somehow brought the family back to  Jaffa and Israel, regained his job with the Israel Electric Company. He raised generations     of successful professionals, all citizens of Israel.

He said that the Jewish refugees from Europe and the Moslem world attempted to forget their past and build a new future for themselves and their descendants when they arrived in Israel. The Palestinian Arab refugees, under the misguided leadership of their spiritual and temporal heads, reveled instead in their past defeats, in their legend of nakba and, in the main, devoted themselves to attempting to destroy Israel rather than rehabilitating themselves.

That attitude and mindset has served them badly and cost them dearly. The past needs to  be remembered and recalled, treasured and instructive to us. However, it is the future and what we make of it that ultimately determines our worth and our fate. That is one of the great lessons to be derived from the story of the life of our father Avraham.

Shabbat shalom, Rabbi Berel Wein